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Wednesday, 3 June 2015


I always ask my clients the question, do you like your body? Whether I am doing a colour or style analysis, a personal shopping consultation or any image related consultation, I always follow up this question with these 2 questions as it will give me a good starting point to work from.
What is the feature you like most about your body?
What is the feature you dislike the most about your body?

These questions may seem shallow at first as it relates entirely to your physical make-up and appearance but the truth is that if you don't like your body you won't like yourself. This in turn has its own set of psychological issues like low self confidence, low self esteem low self worth, self criticism, and a whole range of negative thoughts and emotions which negatively impact every area of your life. Then you realize that it's not shallow after all but brings to light an underlying emotional and psychological state of being. These negative self feelings and negative self perception often translates directly to your physical outward appearance through your dress, body language and communication skills. For e.g. you may purchase clothing that are neutral in colour and doesn't attract attention to yourself because you don't feel confident on the inside so you try to hide on the outside. Many of us have experienced days like that and others feel like they live in a state of wanting to hide, but sometimes your attempt to detract attention away from yourself often causes the opposite effect as you draw attention to yourself simply because the outfit does not compliment who you are. So how can women regain their confidence, self worth and self-esteem? By evaluating these 2 questions.

What is the feature you like most about your body? 

Enhancing your best feature will attract focus to the area of your body that you like and are comfortable  with. Because you are comfortable with that area yourself you won't mind others looking at it. Secondly, by enhancing this area to flatter your overall appearance your confidence levels will increase dramatically (and so too will the the compliments increase).  

What is the feature you dislike most about your body? 

Hiding or camouflaging the area you dislike the most will put you at ease as it is not being exposed for all to see, like exposing an open wound. Having this area covered will take your focus off of it and help you feel comfortable with exposing the area you like best.

Most women are more comfortable answering the question about which part of their body they dislike most and often have a list of areas they dislike. Answering which is their best feature normally takes a while, it's almost like doing a self searching exercise. I must admit though that I was pleasantly surprised when I presented an Image workshop recently and asked the audience for a show of hands as to whether they liked their bodies. All the delegates except 2 of the approx 200 women  admitted to being perfectly happy with their bodies. That does not happen often as normally all the women in the room are unhappy with some part of their body.

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Once we understand that we are all created beautiful and unique in our own way we will feel less pressurized to conform and look a certain way. We are not all meant to be models or look like models, beauty comes in all forms, shapes, sizes, colours, heights. Let's embrace who we are, embrace how we look and celebrate being one of a kind!